You may have seen our post yesterday regarding the passing of much loved office dog Mollie. In the days following Mollie’s passing, the Buddies team spoke about their own experiences with loss and how they dealt with the situation.
In this blog, we look ways to help you cope with the loss of a pet.
Your pet is part of your family and everyone deals with the loss of a family member differently. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
When a pet passes, it’s not uncommon to feel extreme loneliness. You may feel that those around you do not fully understand the loss and intense feelings you are experiencing, but there are people you can talk to. The Blue Cross for pets offers a bereavement support service every day from 8:30am – 8:30pm. If you need someone to talk to, you can reach them on 0800 096 6606.
Whilst researching, we came across a website dedicated to help those coming to terms with the loss of a pet. www.LivingWithPetBereavement.com shared some key points to help someone through pet loss…
- Acknowledge the persons grief without saying you know how they feel
- Send a sympathy card, flowers or condolence gift
- Reassure them that you are there to help support them no matter how long it takes
- Help with arrangements for the aftercare of the pet
- They may or may not want to speak about their pet – let them take the lead
- Offer to tell friends/neighbours that the carers pet has died
- Help to arrange a memorial
- Help to support the carer if they are thinking about getting another pet
- Tell them to take one day at a time – the process of grieving cannot be rushed
- Tell the pet carer to accept the bad days but also to accept the good days as and when they come along
It’s not just pet owners who grieve. It’s not unusual for additional pets within your home to show symptoms of grief and depression. Be sure to look out for tell tale signs such as your pet becoming withdrawn, lethargic or refusing to eat. They are experiencing the same loss, and seeing their owner upset. It’s important to not only look after yourself, and seek help if needed, but to do the same for your pet.
Whilst there is no easy fix for the grief you will experience after the loss of a pet, we hope that the information and advice above may help a little.
If you have any tips or stories you would like to share regarding pet loss, do join the conversation over on our Facebook page.